The Coy Manipulator

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By Nojma Muhammad 

Coy is defined as (especially with reference to a woman) making a pretense of shyness or modesty that is intended to be alluring. In other words, using coy tricks to attract attention. 

As women, we will do things to deliberately get the attention of men but feign ignorance when we get your attention. We are very aware of how the sway of our hips entices you. We know what style of dress gets your attention. But wait! There’s more. We know how to manipulate you intellectually and emotionally as well.

We will tell you exactly what you want to hear.  We either whisper seductive or soothing words in your ear.  Sometimes it’s a combination of both.  We know exactly what to do and say to invoke the necessary reaction we want from you.  By the time you realize that something is amiss — that who we presented ourselves to be, isn't who we really are — you've already been caught in our snares, and in some cases, a child has been born.  Most of us were taught how to manipulate men from our mothers and without their knowledge. The men in our families are our test runs.  So by the time we are grown or young adult women, we have mastered the art of manipulation.


The Coy Manipulator is EXTREMELY slick, Brothers. She may come in the form of a conscious, moral or disciplined woman, and all the while could be an undercover vixen or feminist.

She will also attach herself to women that are "decent" so she can appear decent as well. If you express your admiration for a certain type of woman or declare her to be your "litmus test", well you've just given her the answer to the test.  Women will PRETEND to agree with certain stances and positions, in order to be appealing to you.  You will admire her for her intellect or conviction, but it's undeserved.  She is just biding her time, being calculative until she feels like she "has" you.

Even the most reformed playa has a hard time peeping the game of a crafty woman.  And more than likely, by the time you've peeped it you've already been played.  I'm trying to tell ya'll, the Coy Manipulator is NO JOKE!!

About Sister Nojma Muhammad

Nojma Muhammad is an adocovate for the Black Family, most of her posts on Facebook centers around the Black Woman, her worth, her value, and her place in Divinty. To enlighten the Black Woman about her existence is to create a better existence for the Black Family.

Sister Nojma Muhammad's premise for everything that she post always stems from "75% of the work of reform is with the woman", so women will always be my primary focus. 

You can visit Sister Nojma Muhammad on here Facebook Page for more of her blog posts.  

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